Why This Matters to You

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You've been lied to.

You're whole life you've been told to work harder, take on more, hack processes, all while optimizing every square inch of your life and self-improving yourself into oblivion. Flashy influencers sitting poolside tell you that you're doing it all wrong making you feel worse than you already do.

You've tried all the apps, fitness trackers, and "quick tips" you've found online. What's wrong with you that you can't figure this out on your own?

Nothing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You have all the answers you need trapped inside you, but you need somebody to help set them free, to help you lead the life that wants to live in you.

You've done so much already.

You’ve built a career, taken care of responsibilities, and pushed yourself to succeed. But in your quest for more, your health has suffered. And attempts to focus on your health only make you feel more overwhelmed.

👉 You constantly feel distracted, unable to focus on any one task.
👉 Your focus isn’t as sharp as it used to be.
👉 Stress feels constant, and “relaxing” doesn’t actually make you feel better.
👉 You wake up feeling drained—even after a full night’s sleep.

I get it—because I’ve been there.

For years I was obsessed with self-improvement. I ready all the books, tried all the hacks, and beat myself up for not seeing the same results others had seen.

All of this came to a head in 2017. My resolutions had grown year over year. I told myself I could do forever more until my 2017 resolutions weren't resolutions at all but a 14 column, 94 row spreadsheet.

This is an actual screenshot of the chaos I'd set myself up for that year.

I stopped focusing so much on achieving impossible goals. I stopped trying to cram an inhuman amount of living into a single year. I stopped defining myself by how many things I finished in a year.

I started focusing on the daily practices I wanted to achieve.

Around the same time, my wife and I moved across the country and started a new adventure. I closed my business which I'd been running for 7 years, I went back to work in tech, and I got ready to embrace a new life.

A couple things happened.

My wife got sick.

The world got covid.

A year to the day that I had started my job, we all went remote.

We postponed our wedding twice, then our honeymoon three times.

I spend the next few years slowly sinking into remote work. What had at first seemed fun and freeing now felt like a trap. We moved back east. I changed jobs. Then I changed jobs again.

I was unhappier than I'd been in a long time and I couldn't understand why. I started writing more, swapping out my morning workout for an hour of creating fiction.

I was living this life of incredibly duality. I was learning how to focus more and more than I ever had before, I was creating something that excited me and filled my cup, and yet, for the majority of the day I was deeply unhappy, stagnant, and "Easy Apply"ing for every job remotely close to my interests on LinkedIn.

I had slipped back into the old trap of more, more, more.

My wife and my therapist convinced me to take three months off to try and get my book published. Three months off, then back to business as usual. That was the plan.

January came and I started applying for jobs. I finished my book, and with nothing else to do but apply for jobs, I started another. Every three months I finished another book and hundreds of job applications.

For over a year, rejection emails (and often, complete silence) became my reality. The thoughts crept in:

❌ "Something is wrong with me."
❌ "I need to figure this out. I must be doing something wrong."
❌ "I'm falling behind. Everyone else has it figured out."

A full year later I'd written 5 books and applied for over 2,000 jobs. I was deeply fulfilled creatively, and profoundly unhappy. I kept doing the same thing over and over and wondering why it wasn't working.

18 months after I left work, I got a job. My boss quit in my second week. I was immediately miserable again. After years of daily practice and focus, I was still no happier than I was 5 years ago.

Something else had to change.

I enrolled in the Health and Wellness Coaching Program at Duke University. I needed a trajectory shift, a new way of approaching my own life. It was the same kind of trajectory shift I was able to help others find as their Health Coach. 

The impact was amazing. I helped people rediscover their purpose, calm their anxiety, redefine their living space, give up toxic substances, and most importantly, realize that they had all the tools they needed locked inside their own hearts.

Looking back now it is so obvious I should have started on this path earlier. But I also understand why I didn't. It was like trying to look out a dirty window. Because I couldn't see anything I told myself there was nothing out there for me. I stayed stuck in the same patterns. I blamed myself. I spiraled.

But now I see that there is so much more possible than we ever realize. Breakthroughs are hard on our own. We are better at serving others than we are at serving ourselves. You don't need to spend your nights with a monkey mind and your days with a broken heart.

There's a better way.

This is why I coach.

But the tenants of health coaching have been ingrained in me since high school. The things I value the most are the things I now get to do on a daily basis.

Creating and holding space for people.

Giving people a venue to share their authentic self.

Asking probing questions that get people to share things they've never said aloud.

Those are the things I've always done, and always loved to do. Now I get to focus them while drawing on 20 years of business experience building businesses, leading teams, launching creative projects, and writing like mad.

I’ve felt burnout firsthand. I’ve felt stuck and exhausted while still having to show up for work and life.

Now I know what actually creates sustainable behavior change. And I can help you change the habits that no longer serve you. If you're struggling, know that it's not a permanent state.